My dad, Rev. Wilford L. Denton, at mom's new grave (8-3-08)
That's Dad taking his first flowers to mom's grave at Riverside National Cemetery. We cried and prayed again... together. We thanked God for dad's service and a nation that's honored it my providing he and mom with a beautiful place for their bodies to be buried- for the family to gather for years to come.
Dad served in WWII - served big time and had to see and experience horrors he'd live with the remainder of his life - standing at mom's grave he said he'd done it a dozen times over to give mom so nice a resting place. The bureaucracy was a pain in the neck to deal with... they never gave us the time we needed for mom's interment on a day they weren't busy... they even got the headstone wrong... but here's the thing... they were there. Doing, or making an effort to do, just what they'd said they would do. I'm thankful.
Watched a video, again, of Ron Duncan, General Director of Church of God Ministries, Anderson, IN make a plea for more money for the church. They had graphs and testimonies of how the wheels are really coming off and if we don't do something fast we're in a world of hurt as a church. I don't doubt it. Even still, beyond the lingering guilt I carry as one who grew up in "the church" and one who's ordained and serves in "the church," I wasn't moved to change our budget.
Practically speaking- if I had made the video and was Director of Ministries -think I would have tried to show the value of our shared work together and convey the heart of our work together and the heartbreak that would move out across the church if suddenly all Anderson accomplished, year in and year out, disappeared. The video- really just a power point presentation turned video -was filled with low grade graphics, clips of meetings- more meetings... -and plenty of photos filled with mostly old, white, overweight men... smiling... I thought we were going broke?
I might have done it differently. But that's just me.
Personally speaking- I thought of dad and mom. They served the church of God faithfully from childhood. Their parents were leaders before them. I've prayed this isn't bitterness- hope it's not -because it sure sounds like it when I read it... but I'm blown away that our nation paid a price to remember mom- because dad served... and no one in Anderson bothered to send a card- after they each had given their entire lives. It just seems like good business sense- hire someone to remember when the faithful pass... we are after all, first and foremost, pastors. Would have made it so much easier to say: "Amen!" When Dr. Duncan made his plea for funds... when he said: "We're here to serve you!"
Instead, his words rang empty.
Here's the deal: mom and dad were well known on the national stage- not bragging -it is what it is. How many faithful servants who never wrote, spoke or traveled outside their own fellowship will slip into eternity- remembered by Our Father -missed by their family's and totally failed by the church at large?
Autonomy. Congregationalism. Maybe there's never been a better time to discuss our mutual obligation to each other.
Let me know what you think. You can email me at eric@centralcommunity.com or call directly at 714.907.4263.
blessings,
Eric
PS
Dr. Duncan, send dad a card.
thanks